Taarof
T'aarof, Ta'arof or Tarof (Persian: تعارف‎) is a Persian form of civility emphasizing both self-deference and social rank, similar to the Chinese art of etiquette, limao. The term encompasses a range of social behaviours, from a man displaying etiquette by opening the door for a woman, to a group of colleagues standing on ceremony in front of a door that can permit the entry of only one at time, earnestly imploring the most senior to break the deadlock.
The prevalence of t'aarof often gives rise to different styles of negotiation than one would see in a non-Iranian culture. For example, a worker negotiating a salary might begin with a eulogy of the employer, followed by a lengthy bargaining session consisting entirely of indirect, polite language – both parties are expected to understand the implied topic of discussion. It is quite common for an Iranian worker (even one employed in an Iranian neighborhood within Europe) to work unpaid for a week or two before the issue of wages is finally broached.[citation needed] Likewise, a shopkeeper may initially refuse to quote a price for an item, suggesting that it is worthless ("gh'aabel nadaareh"). T'aarof obliges the customer to insist on paying, possibly several times, before a shopkeeper finally quotes a price and real negotiation can begin.
T'aarof also governs the rules of hospitality: a host is obliged to offer anything a guest might want, and a guest is equally obliged to refuse it. This ritual may repeat itself several times before the host and guest finally determine whether the host's offer and the guest's refusal are real or simply polite. It is possible to ask someone not to t'aarof ("t'aarof nakonid"), but that raises new difficulties, since the request itself might be a devious type of t'aarof.
At times t'aarof can lead to one performing a task that one does not want to perform. For instance, if one friend offers a ride to another friend only because they are being polite, they may become stuck in the situation if the friend agrees to get the ride. Of course if one was going by the rules of t'aarof, one would refuse the offer many times before accepting.
It is a way of denying your will to please your counterpart, however the will is only denied because of the custom and not to please the counterpart. But there are situations where t'aarof persist upon a request to make the counterpart genuinely satisfied. T'aarof may cause misunderstandings between both parties and can be a source for awkward situations in a social setting.

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'Taarof' is an Arabic word indicating the process of getting acquainted with someone. In Iranian culture it is a form of civility for politeness and mutual respect .
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Taarof: Taarof is the art of politeness in Persian culture.
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Taarof | openDemocracy
Aug 25, 2004 ... Taarof is an aspect of routine cultural behaviour among Iranians, used in their daily interactions with old and new acquaintances alike.
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